Etiquette for Meet and Greets

Top Ten Reasons that you are considered a Single Male

You will be considered to be a single male if one or more of the list below describe you:
1)     You are single.
2)     You "left" your wife/girlfriend in the car.
3)     Posted a couple profile without an active participating female partner.
4)     You have a "Hall Pass" to play alone.
6)     "Forgot' to remove your other half from your couple profile, now that     you've split.
7)     Your other half is "taking a break" from the lifestyle.
8)     Your other half is "out of town" or was "called into work".
9)     You have both a single man and a couple profile on SLS.
10)   If you have plans to meet someone at the party you are considered single.

.......Don't laugh, we have heard all these and more. If you're single, you're single, be honest about it.   Hiding the truth will cost you more in the long run due to lack of honesty up front. We realize that being a single male at times does exclude you from a few events. It may come as a shock, but the single ladies that attend these events prefer this screening process also.   Should you meet somebody in the lifestyle, you will appreciate these guidelines.  Couples come to our parties to meet, exchange information, socialize, and play with other couples. If your relationship is truly serious then your profile will reflect that. We ask that you please do not try to squeeze in as a couple, if you aren't.

We are not a "dating club" but a social club.

#1 Rule of etiquette is always be polite. Never pushy! Respect boundries. In this lifestyle, which is all about couples and relationships, there is so much variety and that's what makes it so great but with that comes the assumption that other people may not have the same boundries and/or interests as you or me. Honesty and inquiry is a great way to overcome this hurrdle.

Do's.... Do be honest. People in this lifestyle value honesty above all else. When you aren't honest or omit details, that's when people get hurt or offended and we joined this lifestyle to have fun and crossing lines like that is not fun. If you are new at this, ask questions, and tell your new friends that you are inexperienced, it will help everyone to have a good time and limit any drama.

Don'ts.... Don't be pushy or grabby. From a woman's perspective, just because we are in lifestyle doesn't mean we go for it with anyone. We have a right to say yes please or no thank you just the same as anyone one, in or out of lifestyle. Like my husband once said, just because we like to play with other people doesn't mean we will play with anyone. Make sure you are respecting people like you would want to be treated upon meeting someone for the first time.

Don't bring any DRAMA to our events. This is not the place and will definitely reflect very negatively on you. We strive for a relaxing atmosphere and this means a "DRAMA FREE ZONE!"

Do Not take pictures without asking for permission. Most people are uncomfortable with strangers taking their picture. Many of the couples have high profile jobs and don't want their photos taken. Please respect their wish for privacy.

Single Men
Here are a few things that will ABSOLUTELY guarentee you not getting anywhere at this (or other) event(s):

1) A Sloppy Appearance in both your clothing and your hygene.

2) Innappropriate touching. It's not a great way to make an introduction and unless they've made it clear they're interested...don't even try.

3) DO NOT, under any circumstances lurk around waiting for opportunities to get an attached women alone. The moment the male half leaves is not your opening to make a pass at a woman, this will most often lead to trouble. If you are interested in them as a couple, introduce yourself to them, we are a friendly bunch.

Here are three Cardinal Rules about the Lifestyle that will help you understand what's going on.

1) PEOPLE IN THE LIFESTYLE ARE NOT IN THIS BECAUSE THEY HAVE AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP. THEY'RE NOT IN IT BECAUSE THEY HAVE A BAD SEX LIFE EITHER. Asking a woman those questions are a sure fire way to get rejected.

2) THE WOMAN HAS ALLLLLLL OF THE CONTROL. Thinking otherwise will make it a very short evening of things for you.

3) NO and NO-THANK-YOU means NO, just that. It isn't personal and you shouldn't take it that way. There has to be a physical/mental attraction or it's just not going to happen. If you ask someone for a phone number, to dance or to party and they say no, don't ask again. NO means NO! If they change their mind, they will ask you. Standing there pleading your case will only assure you to be rejected further...not to mention possibly asked to leave the event.

A final rule to follow:

If a lady at the event is obviously single...treat her with respect and DO NOT pounce on her.

She is there as our guest and even though she's alone in the Lifestyle...she deserves to be treated like a lady..not like "THE SURE THING" you might imagine her to be. Be a gentleman and be considerate.

All in all, its all about respect. Respecting others and their boundries and knowing/sharing what your boundries are. We encourage people to share their level of experience in the lifestyle, and any preferences they desire.

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